Before there was social media there were AOL chat rooms and later blogs. Bloggers who never met became great friends. This is a story about my blogging buddy Debbie George. Debbie’s blog was called “Through Thick and Thin” because of her successful surgery that final helped her lose a hundred pounds.
As with most bloggers, Debbie left her blog for social media. We were friends then on Facebook. We’d text or chat, most recently about her move back to the northeast, her sons and her relationships. So, I’m not sure if I have the right words to say what happened next.
Debbie was complaining that she wasn’t feeling well and had to fight with her doctor to get a MRI. Debbie passed away in her sleep two days ago. Deb and I were good friends even though we never met. We’d text, email and phone. She was going through a lot of the same stuff recently that I could relate to. We kept planning to meet. In fact we spoke recently that we should get together.
While I know little about what exactly happened, let me just say this: She loved her children and her husband. While she came back to the northeast to figure some stuff out, I know that her heart was with her husband and of course her boys. I wish I knew more so I could share more. You were my friend, Debbie. I will always miss you…
Bud, I was so sorry to read this. I believe you were there for Debbie in a meaningful way. I KNOW that, after my mom died, comments you posted on my blog touched me, and I imagine your words were just as important to her. Sometimes people find themselves in a place where they can’t/won’t allow people too close, and perhaps that’s what was going on with Debbie. (My oldest friend is battling chronic clinical depression and when she goes too long without reaching out, I always fear the worst.)
Hang in there. And, of course, at times like this you should ALWAYS listen to the Lads from Liverpool. “In My Life,” “Watching the Wheels,” “HELP!” Let John put voice to what you’re going through.
Thank you. I appreciate it.
This hits so close to home.
Ditto, what Gal said. You were there for her, and no one can know what your friend may have known she was facing. Only she knew.
You never want to become the story, so I’m not feeling that I had some ability to cure her. She had two sons who were always out of control. That caused the first divorce. Her trying to get the boys help was a daily struggle. Then her 2nd hubbie left…