We have found a lot of places that will take my dad for $$$$, but since he doesn’t have any, the search goes on. My brother has been supporting him and would spend that amount, but the way they are trying to go he would land in a good facility that Medicare would take care of. Diane was worried how to get him into the hospital without a fuss. My sister-in-law, who has not seen him in this condition, told Diane to tell him that they were taking him to lunch. Diane responded, “My grandmother was so out of it that not only would that have worked, but also my grandmother would offer to treat and pay with matchsticks. My dad is only in stage 1. Half the time he’s himself and half not. The only thing that he knows for sure is that hates hospitals. Diane called it a day from hell.
I feel really badly for my sister Diane. She has already taking my mom in and supported her for years, but also now is dealing with this because my brother who supports my dad lives in Boston. I hope today we here that he’s going to the they have targeted. He’s gonna be unhappy anywhere. He won’t have direct TV and won’t see his beloved Cubs. I think I’ll propose an iPad with the Major League Network. That might just do it. If he has a private TV a slingbox would work as well.
I’m rambling so I’ll close. I hope I have better news tomorrow.
May I politicize this for a moment? I was dealing with all the bills from my mom’s final hospitalization when I heard Romney’s 47% comment. Thanks to Medicare and the Medicare Part B insurance I bought her, I really ended up having to pay little. There’s the time I spent on the phone and faxing (only hospitals and insurance companies fax anymore) to get it all ironed out, but in terms of $$, so much of it was taken care of.
Apparently, according to Romney, my family I were *dependent* on government, *victims* who believe we are *entitled* to healthcare. I’m afraid I didn’t choose my parents with an eye to the bottom line the way George Romney’s son Mitt did.
Finances are a fact of life in the decisions you’re making. It’s unfortunate, but true. Neither you nor your sibs are young anymore. If you bankrupt yourselves to take care of your dad, who takes care of you when you’re old? It’s a vicious cycle.
Don’t feel guilty about being concerned about the money. You have your own children and Kathy’s family to consider in all this, as well as your own standard of living. It’s not cold or harsh, it’s simply the way it is.
And take care of yourself. You won’t do your dad any good if you’re worn down.
(Thanks for the Sgt. Pepper reference.)
Bud, I hope you and your siblings are able to get some answers soon–something that works for all of you. Keep reminding yourself that your dad isn’t acting like this on purpose.
Sending lots of good thoughts your way.